It’s Friday the 13th and today’s topic is fear.

What is fear?

Fear has been defined as a vital response to physical danger. If we didn’t feel it, we couldn’t protect ourselves from legitimate threats. However, often we fear situations that are not life threatening but pose an emotional danger and thus avoid them in the name of sanity. But by not facing our fears, we are feeding the gluttonous monster.

Think about fear in terms of your desire to write, or your lack of writing. What is stopping you from being who you are? Have you let someone else’s goals become your goals? Are you intimated by the productivity, or success, of others? Did you reach for a star only to it have fade away before you could grasp it?  Did you receive love from an editor or agent and then found that relationship wasn’t meant to last? Has life in general attacked you?

We all let outside factors affect our productivity from time to time. There is no shame it, but at some point, we should recognize that we’re causing ourselves harm by tying ourselves into a knot of stress, and by extension hurting our love ones.

Great works take time and love. You can’t give your muse love if all you feel is angst because….  So you’re not the writer who can pound out three books a year. Personally, when my life is over, I want to be remembered as writing that one memorable book for my readers rather than one-hundred toss away novels. I continue to work on my skill as a writer and I want my next work to be better than my last one.

So you haven’t made USA Today or NYT best seller list. I have my opinions concerning those publishing crowns, which I’ll keep to myself today.  However, if that’s your goal, you’re not done writing yet, right? The next book might hit a list. The same goes with gaining the interest of a publisher or agent.

So life has encroached on your path? We all have priorities. Family and friends top my list. If I walked away from them during times of need to write, I wouldn’t respect myself. I can write any minute of the day and any day of the week. Some of my best ideas came during stressful times.  A truly great story mirrors life. Take notes.

My motto has been since I started writing and continues to be; Word By Word, Line By Line, Page By Page.

So today, on the day others have imposed on us to be fearful of black cats, cracks in the side walk, mom and pop hotels, strangers, bright lights in the sky, let’s examine our fears for what they truly are and then brush them to the side and enjoy our passions.



Autumn Jordon is sneaker-wearing Ruby who authors light-heart contemporary romances and seat-edging mystery/suspense novels. Her newest release, Perfect Fall is the book of her heart. Check it out at and while you’re there join her occasional newsletter.   

16 responses to “WHAT IS 13?”

  1. PennyH says:

    Life and severe burnout. Thanks for the refreshing article. I’ve been slowing working my way back, between life, by arting. It is bringing me new joy and a new eye for story.

  2. Hope Ramsay says:

    I know it’s a cliche, but if you fear falling (or failing), then you’ll never learn to walk. You have to fail a lot before you succeed.

  3. Rita Henuber says:

    Geeze. Didn’t realize it was Friday the 13th until I read this. In fact I was thinking it was still Tuesday. Sigh.
    In my opinion fear is a bugaboo that haunts all creative people. It enables failure and procrastination. A favorite quote of mine is, “If your dreams don’t scare you, they aren’t big enough.” Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, Africa’s first woman president.
    So I say, “Be Afraid. Be Very Afraid.” Become a member of team never quit and write on.

  4. Wonderful post, Autumn! I’m the type that takes chances. I’m not afraid of failing. Failing is an important part of succeeding. Failing is the stepping stones you must cross on your path to accomplishments—whatever they may be. Failing makes us stronger!

    As Dolly Parton once said, you have to put up with the rain to get the rainbow. 🙂


  5. Thanks for your post, Autumn. Nice way to put things in perspective.

  6. Addison Fox says:

    This is a wonderful post, Autumn!! And I love your points on walking your own path. There’s so much in this business that we can’t control – but we can control what we do about it. I follow that advice better at times than others but know that it’s so true. Each of our paths is different and respecting your own journey is so key. xoxo

    • Thanks Addison. It is so hard at times not to compare your journey with others. I’m in the mind frame that my career and life isn’t over yet. I have no clue what lies in store for me or what will come out of my head next.

  7. Cynthia Huscroft says:

    A day late and a dollar short….:) Finally was able to sit and read this post this morning and I’m glad I did as it is right on time. I’ve been in a bit of a writing slump lately and think that fear may have some bearing on that. When it’s finished, I have to do something with it and not just let it sit and gather dust. The words “the end” are right around the corner…I can feel it… I’m not sure if I’m ready to let go of my characters yet, but I think they are ready to get rid of me:)

    Both Hope’s and Rita’s sayings hit home. And your motto has become my mantra on many days. Here’s one of my favorites – even have it on a pin. To paraphrase Les Brown, “Shoot for the moon, if you miss, you’ll be among the stars.”

    Great post, Autumn…thank you!

    • You’re not alone in your feelings, Cyn. I freeze up every book when I near the end. I’ve come to realize it part my process. I step back and reflect on the story and how I can make it better before I take the next step which is to publish it.

      Only you can decide what you want to do with the work. You can keep it for yourself or give it to the world. The choice is yours.

      You know if you make the decision to publish it, you have friends that will help you through the process.

  8. Like the wiser folks above me have said, you’ll fail a lot in this business and I’ve definitely grown inured to it. I think that’s all it takes to defeat fear – repetition.

    What’s stopping me from being who I am now? At the moment, it’s money. 😀 I’ve been giving my time to the temporary day job when I’d rather be writing (and I came down with a mild case of plague to slow me down a bit). But this too shall pass. Obstacles are temporary.

    • So true, Vivi. The more you do a task, the less you fear the results. I’m a professional failure and proud of it!

      Obstacles are challenges that exist to teach us lessons. Learn well. WINK


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