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Put a Little Love in St. Valentine’s Day


As writers of romance, some might think that we have St. Valentine’s Day all planned out and perfected. Rose petals and candles, sentimental handmade cards exchanged while we listen to memory-filled songs from a specially created playlist. Sexy lingerie and of course steamy ruby-colored stilettos. After all, we have “written the book” (or many books) on love and romance so Valentine’s Day must be a sultry breeze for us.



As you may have learned from other Ruby posts, we are as real as everyone else, struggling in the very unromantic world around us. Tantrum-perfected toddlers, drama-filled tweens, unrepentant teens, tired spouses, deadlines, dirty houses, mini-vans with strange stains and odd odors, dogs with way too much gas, spouses with way too much gas… It goes on and on. The majority of life is NOT romantic.

However, it is vital for your mental well-being to appreciate life and those who are special to you. If you have beings (spouse, kids, friends, pets) in your life whom you care about, use St. Valentine’s Day as an excuse to remind them how special they are to you. Making others feel appreciated and loved can fill your own well too.

So how to do that…

Keep in mind that what might be appreciated by one person may not be appreciated by another. The key to a fabulous Valentine’s gesture is to make it personal. Here are a couple of ideas.

  1. Find five items that represent qualities you love about the person and wrap them (don’t buy them, find them in the house). Examples: a hammer if your hubby is Mr. Fix It, picture of the kids if he’s a great dad, a feather if your partner is creative in bed.

Then for five days leading up to Valentine’s Day, place one wrapped item on the mantel or where he/she will see it. When asked about the gifts, just smile. Then on the big day have them open each and explain how it reflects something you love about them. This doesn’t cost anything but really makes the person feel appreciated. This can also be done for kids, although they might be disappointed that the gifts are things they already own.

  1. Cut out a bunch of paper hearts. Write something you love about he/she on each one (I do different colors for each of my three kids). The night before Valentine’s Day, after they are asleep, scatter them around their bed or hide them in fun places. In the morning they hunt for and read them. Smiles all around. My teenager has kept his from years ago. I mail an envelope to my college-aged daughter with instructions on the front telling her to scatter them around her room, so she still gets her paper hearts. Her friend told her “Wow, your parents really love you.” Why yes, we do!

  1. If the temperature is above freezing – Take your partner out to a field away from the town lights. Bring hot chocolate in a thermos, a waterproof picnic blanket, and a cuddly blanket for on top. Drink, snuggle, watch the stars, and keep each other warm. Ladies, might I suggest wearing a skirt ; )

  1. Write out different kinds of kisses on paper hearts and put them in a cute box or bag. Examples: passionate, sweet, French, on a ticklish spot, movie kiss, etc. Have fun with coming up with silly or very specific ones. Present it to your partner and have he/she pull out at least one kiss a day.

  1. Have a group of friends to celebrate with? Throw a St. Valentine’s Day Party where they come in PJs to watch favorite romantic movies all day. Let each person bring their favorite. You can shoot for 2/16, the Saturday after Valentines day. Make mimosas and snacks like Candy Heart cookies or do fondue. Buy a big box of Valentines chocolate to share.


These are just a few ideas to start you off. What romantic, sweet, or sexy ideas do you have to make those in your life know that you appreciate and love them?



Spice Up the Romance

This is a hectic time of year. After September, it’s a slippery slope right into the winter holidays. So we often forget that most important someone in our lives. Taking the time to remember why and how you love someone is incredibly important and can also be lots of fun!christmas-countdown[1]

 Now I know you know (my eyebrows raised as I take on a well-meaning lecture pose) that the heroes in all the books you read and/or write are not the type of guys you see on the street or in the Lazy Boy next to you in the family room (compare the 2 below). But they certainly can have bits and pieces of the heroes we love in books. Whether we’ve given our oath to love them forever or if we are just trying things out with a potential love-of-our-lives, we owe it to ourselves and the relationship to whip up some sweet and spicy romance. Here are a couple easy ideas to get you planning.

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1. Pick a scary movie and go on a date. Snuggle close during the scary parts. Or rent an old horror flick, cuddle and laugh at the cheesy effects.

whisper2. Learn a sexy phrase in another language (there are pronunciation options on some translation sites). Leave the phrase written in a note and then whisper it in his ear.

3. Write a dirty limerick and leave it for him. There are plenty to copy if you can’t come up with your own. My hero, Will Wyatt, in UNTAMED HEARTS is a pirate who can come up with a dirty poem right on the spot! Here is one Will spun off the top of his head (his tamest one ; ). I DON’T recommend leaving this one for your husband though!Untamed_Hearts_500


There once was a girl from Madrid,

Who married a dandified prig,

So at night she would creep

To her bloke down the street

Who loved her clean out of her wig.

 4. Pack a thermos of hot chocolate and two mugs. Find a dark, empty field for date night. Don’t forget the cozy picnic blanket so you can enjoy warming each other up under the stars. If all goes well, you can put this scene in your own romance novel!picnic



5. Write a sexy note in code and leave it in his lunch or on the seat of his car. Text or e-mail him the key so he can decipher the note. If you can’t think of something, borrow a line from your favorite romance book. He’ll never know!

code key








6. Pretend to read his palm and tell him all the things he should do to increase his love life (and not just washing the dishes).



7. Make a special drink and tell him it’s a love potion. Drink it together and see what happens.








 8. Book an all-inclusive, adults-only stay at a 5-star resort in the tropics with a swim-up bedroom and a beach butler to bring the two of you drinks on the beach. Gourmet dining, dancing, kayaking, moonlit walks…Oh yes, I’m doing this one! Actually I am, for my 20th wedding anniversary. No really – my hubby and I leave tomorrow at the ungodly hour of 4 AM. I plan to post pictures on FB. You can check some out at (HeatherMcCollumAuthor on FB). I’ll be sure to only post the non-naked ones (wink, wink). This is the first vacation (for more than 2 days) that we’ve taken together without the kids since our honeymoon. Eeks – I’m so excited! 


So let’s hear your ideas for spicing up your love life. What have you crazy kids done to stoke the romantic fires or maybe want to try (La, la, la, la! PG-13 please!)?














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