My Other Marriage By Katie GrayKowski

My Other Marriage



Warning: this blog was supposed to be about the difference in editing styles, so I sent 5 editors the same paragraph to edit, but guess what … wait for it … they all found the same things. This is why you should always have a prospective new editor edit your first chapter or first three chapters to see if their editing style works with your writing style. Learn from me people. Do as I say and not as I do.


Finding the perfect editor is a lot like finding the perfect spouse. You have to kiss some frogs before you find your perfect prince. In over a decade of writing, I’ve been through eight editors. I love them all, but I finally found my prince or well, princess. Her name is Abby. She gets me. She corrects me. She makes me a better writer.


Wondering how to find the perfect editor, you’re not alone. I just Googled “how to find a fiction manuscript editor.” Google came up with:

First, what is with the “about?” Either Google found 71,400,000 hits or it didn’t.


Second, it makes my head hurt to think about wading through all of those hits.


Here are some tips to help you find your match made in editor heaven:


Ask your writer finds who they use to edit their manuscripts. Word-of-mouth is usually the best way to find most things. That’s how I found Abby.


Don’t have writer friends, go to creditable writer websites like or or . FYI—you don’t have to write romance to join Romance Writers of America (RWA). There are a gazillion local RWA chapters where you can meet people who are exactly your brand of crazy. If you can’t find a chapter close enough to attend in person, there are tons of online chapters.


Stalk your favorite writers (I mean online and not in person). If there’s a writer whose work is close to yours, contact them and ask who does their editing. Even if they are traditionally published, chances are they still use a developmental editor who looks over their work before they send it to their publisher.


How did you find your perfect editor?

7 responses to “My Other Marriage By Katie GrayKowski”

  1. I found my developmental editor in a “meet cute.”

    My daughter’s roommate had just graduated from college with an English degree. She was looking to edit fiction manuscripts… but she’d never edited novel-length fiction. So my daughter said, “Pretty please, give her a chance.” I rolled my eyes and said, “Sure, have her contact me.”

    Holy words! Laura is insanely amazing. We clicked from the beginning. She’s edited everything I’ve written. I can’t write a book without her anymore. Word-of-mouth has really worked for her. I’m almost afraid to recommend her now–because it means that I have to get in line. (Seriously, I’m delighted with her success.)

    And it is true about developmental edits for my trad-pubbed books. Laura helps me with them, too. My trad editors are totally cool with that.

    • Wow! You are lucky to have found Laura.

      I met my editor through another Ruby sister. We clinked. I’ve learned so much from Pat.

      Often it’s about the connections you make.

  2. Word of mouth worked best for me too. My editor makes my books a lot better!

  3. Lydia Stevens says:

    Hi Autumn!

    Thanks for the post. I love my editor. She is amazing. I would also like to point out, it is possible to encounter an editor who isn’t right for a writer and their project. I think oftentimes because money is involved, the writer believes they must stay with that editor, even if the working relationship isn’t working. It doesn’t mean the editor isn’t a good editor, just that the project and interests might be diversified and it is ok to “shop” around for an editor that works!

    This is just my two cents anyway.

    Thanks again for the insight!

    Best, Lydia

    • This is so true! Editors are like readers, they have subgenres and tropes they love–and don’t love. Most editors will give an author a sample edit (either free or low cost)…just a few pages or a couple of chapters. And then the editor and author can discover whether they feel their styles align.

    • Totally agree. The relationship must work to make your work the best it can be. Thank you for bring that point up.

  4. Darynda Jones says:

    I have an INCREDIBLE developmental editor who looks over my work before I send it to my publisher. (HI, TRAYCE!!!) It helps so much to get feedback before you send it in, and she tells me like it is. Doesn’t let me get away with a thing. Ugh!

    Great post, Katie!!!


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