Talk Your Way to Success – the Power of Positive Affirmations

Who are you? What do you want to be? A “real” writer? A published writer? A NY Times Best Selling author? I’m going to teach you (or remind you) about a secret power that you have. The power of the positive affirmation.


Repeat after me – “I am a successful writer.” Say it out loud in the mirror. Repeat twice a day.


This is a positive affirmation and watch out – it’s VERY powerful. An affirmation is a statement, repeated either verbally, mentally, and/or through writing. When we review the words, it makes our body and mind believe they are real. And when we believe, we realign our world around that truth. Of course, we can’t bring back the dead, cure incurable diseases, or win the lottery just by saying positive affirmations – but they can do a lot of good.

We’ve all seen the horrific impact of negative affirmations on people. People can be their own worst enemies by mentally or verbally telling themselves they are failures or worse. This is self-sabotage. If you berate yourself, try talking to yourself as you would to a friend or even an acquaintance. Chances are you’ll speak kinder to yourself.

Next step is to come up with some positive affirmations. Be careful to do this part correctly. You don’t want to inadvertently make things more negative.

  1. The statement should be specific and about something you are not yet, but want to be. Don’t feel like you’re lying. It is supposed to be something that is NOT true – yet (or that you don’t feel is true).
  2. It must be in present tense. If you say “I will be a successful writer” that describes the future and you won’t get there because the future is always out of reach. Replace “will be” with “am”.
  3. Use ONLY positive words. If you say “I never stop writing” your psyche will hear “stop” and leave out the “never”. Rephrase to take out “never” “not” “won’t” and any of those reverse words. “I write everyday,” works better.

At one time I had ten stickies stuck to my bathroom mirror with affirmations. I recommend starting with just a few so it doesn’t seem like a chore. Some people put them in their cars so that every time they get in they repeat the affirmations.

Bk 1 of The Dragonfly Chronicles

You may want to warn spouses or people who share the area with you. When I was trying to get pregnant I wrote “I am pregnant” so obviously I had to tell my husband what I was up to (BTW – I got pregnant : ).

Bk 2 of The Dragonfly Chronicles

Right around the time I submitted my manuscript that was a finalist in the 2009 Golden Hearts I was writing and saying “I am a published writer.” Before I even found out that I was a finalist I sold two manuscripts.

When I was fighting ovarian cancer with fifteen months of grueling chemo and surgery, I said a list of thirty positive affirmations at least twice a day. I wrote new ones each night. “My body is full of health.” “My stomach is calm.” “I sleep deeply and peacefully through the night.” They served me well, helping me to calm down and shift my focus from panic to determined survival (I’m a 6-year survivor).

Positive affirmations. They are simple. They work. With conference season coming up, it is the perfect time to write some out and start saying them. “I love to pitch my book ideas.” “I am confident and love to meet new people.” “I am a talented writer.” “I am a NY Times Best Seller.” You get the idea.

Feel free to send me some positive affirmations if you’d like to bounce around some ideas.





16 responses to “Talk Your Way to Success – the Power of Positive Affirmations”

  1. jbrayweber says:

    It’s so easy to be negative with oneself. Being a writer amplifies that negative talk sometimes. After all, it is a platform which thrusts us into a critical, public eye. Positive affirmations can blast that (and a great support group!). I think it might take practice, though, to make it a habit.

    Wonderful blog, Heather. Off to say nice things about myself to myself. 🙂

  2. Heather, thank you for this post. So many times I catch myself saying I used to be able to do this, or I used enjoyed doing that, or I used to not fear … It’s so easy to think in negative terms and we don’t even realize we’re doing so. We accept the negativity and even embrace it as a way of life.

    I recalled three negative thoughts I had this morning while reading your post. I won’t bore you with my ambles, but I’ve already decided that I will turn the three negatives into positives and I will do them because I know they will bring me joy!

    Thank you, sister.

  3. Alyssa says:

    Such a fantastic reminder. It’s so easy to be negative and critical of yourself or situations. Thank you!!

  4. Cynthia Huscroft says:

    Oh my, Heather…this blog is just what I need(ed)! & to add to it, I have a little book of “daily reflections” that I read and today’s was of a similar ilk. The Universe must be trying to tell me something:)

    Thank you for reminding me of this very powerful tool! Now to write those sticky notes (& some “new words”):)

  5. What an uplifting blog post, Heather! For some writers, penning positive affirmations on sticky notes may be the most important words they write all year. 🙂

    • : ) I love that, Shelley! Learning to truly appreciate ourselves and loving ourselves is definitely the most important goal we should have.

      And thanks for tweeting about the blog post. I always forget to put it out there on social media.

  6. I’m a big fan of positive thinking though I’ve never tried affirmations. I just love the optimism of focusing on the good. 😀

  7. Fabulous post, Heather. Thanks for the reminder to be kind to ourselves, as well as to pump ourselves up. We all need that boost now and then (or every day) and who better to see to our needs than ourselves? 🙂

  8. I am awake! I am clear-headed! I am excited to work today!

  9. Rita Henuber says:

    Love this. Thanks Heather. Great words and encouragement to do our best.


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