Consolation Day 2015

Silent PhoneA few days ago (March 26th, to be exact), calls went out to several dozen very talented writers and authors in the romance community. I’m pretty sure this is not news to you.

That same day, hundreds of folks who had entered did not receive a call. I admit, I was one of those. Woe is me. If you’re stopping by here today, I’m guessing you may have been one of those waiting by the phone, disappointed when it didn’t ring (or it rang, but it was a telemarketer or family member or someone else equally unaware of how the ringing of the phone on that particular day can make your blood pressure skyrocket).

But after the phone call never came, and I commiserated with my friends, and I had a lovely cocktail (or two) with my husband that night, I picked myself up and wrote this post—because I know the healing power of venting (in a civilized, non-attacking way). I love this annual Ruby tradition because it reminds me that I’m not alone. There are so many of us striving for the brass ring, trying to get ahead and have our talents recognized.

Oh, and I love this tradition because I get to give away PRIZES! Fabulous, healing, nurturing, monetary or delicious prizes!

CookiesIn fine Ruby tradition, I’m here to welcome you to our annual consolation day. I’m sorry I can’t give each and every one of you a call to welcome you to the fold today, but consider this your engraved invitation. Welcome to our group therapy circle. Grab some cookies and feel free to rant and rave and shake your fists at the sky. Tell us about the unrecognized beauty of your manuscripts and books.

And when you’re done, pick yourself up and dust yourself off (and wipe the chocolate from your mouth) and let’s get back at it! This is a brand new day, another chance to show the world who we are as writers and to reach our full potential.

In case you need help getting back on track, here links to some songs I listen to that I consider “therapy for an artist’s soul…”


Oh, and in case this hasn’t been enough to lift your spirits… I believe I mentioned PRIZES? I’ll be randomly awarding them to non-Ruby commenters below throughout the day…





To sum up, regardless of what happened during a few hours last Thursday, YOU ARE A ROCK STAR. Never forget that. But even rock stars (especially rock stars?) are able to throw a tantrum now and then. (For fun, here are some of the most “farcical” rockstar tantrums.)


Stop by in the comments below and whine all you want. Go on, let me hear it. Get it out and then get out there and run down that dream. I know you can do it. (And if you have personal tips for moving on, or inspirational things you tell yourself or songs you listen to to pick yourself up again, please share. It may help someone else!)

Prizes awarded to non-Ruby commenters, randomly selected.


126 responses to “Consolation Day 2015”

  1. I didn’t even enter and STILL I was disappointed not to get a phone call. How ridiculous is that?

    Anyway, not finaling feels like the end of the world … but it’s not. We just have to get back up, brush the dust from our rears and get back to telling our stories. Just because the recognition didn’t come on March 26 doesn’t mean it’s not around the next corner.

    Love the songs you chose, especially the Tom Petty sequence. (My personal fave is “Into the Great Wide Open.”)

    • So true about recognition being just around the corner, Arlene. It’s not the end of the world. A lovely commenter by the name of Jen Gilroy won a consolation prize on the Ruby blog exactly a year ago. *This* year, she’s a contemporary romance finalist!

      • Elisa Beatty says:

        Yay for Jen!!!!!!

        Yes, disappointment one year can so easily turn around to jubilation the next.

        Perseverance is a trait no writer can survive without.

        • Jen Gilroy says:

          I’d planned to drop by and post today, but Vanessa and Elisa beat me to it!

          I was here in 2014. It was my second time entering the Golden Heart and, once again, the phone didn’t ring. I was disappointed but after eating chocolate, picked myself up and went back to work,heartened by the support from everyone in this community, Rubies and non-Rubies alike.

          It helped I won a prize too! As I’ve already shared with Vanessa, her Amazon voucher clearly brought me luck!

          When the phone did ring for me last Thursday (my third time entering the GH), I was shocked and happy, honoured and grateful. Yet, I also remembered exactly how I’d felt a year before.

          For those of you who didn’t get a call last week, don’t give up. Keep writing, and always remember how subjective this business is.

          I entered my GH finalist manuscript in an RWA Chapter contest several months before I entered the GH. I didn’t final and, when reading the judges’ comments, let’s just say a copious amount of chocolate was required on that occasion too.

          Sending all of you big, supportive hugs.

          Jen x

          • “For those of you who didn’t get a call last week, don’t give up. Keep writing, and always remember how subjective this business is.”

            Beautifully said! Congratulations on persevering!

          • Something similar happened to me: I entered for the first time in 2010 and didn’t final. The only time my phone rang all day, it was a guy from GoDaddy. But I entered again in 2011 and got the call.

            One good thing about living in Arizona — the call came at 8 my time, so I didn’t have to spend time waiting for the phone. Plus, I had all day to celebrate.

          • Addison Fox says:

            Congratulations on the call, Jen!! And thanks so much for sharing your story with us!!


    • I’m toasting you with my coffee, Arlene – “To what’s around the corner!”

      Thanks for stopping by this morning!

    • Congratulations, Arlene! You’ve won the First Chapter Critique or Brainstorming session with Katie Graykowski!! That’ll be fun! 😀

  2. Sending out huge cyber hugs to all who missed a spot in the GH/RITA finals! I missed out on a chance at the RITA, but I’ve already picked myself up. I got by with a little help from my friends, some cookies, and LOTS of chocolate. 🙂

    Loved the rock star tantrums link, Anne Marie! I reckon on a day like this, Morrissey might play his own song, “We Hate It When Our Friends Become Successful.” (His words, not mine!!! I personally love it when my friends become successful!) The song I’d play isn’t at all rock and you can’t even sing along to it, but it’s inspirational and reminds me that writing/publishing is a marathon, not a sprint: the theme from “Chariots of Fire” by Vangelis.

  3. jbrayweber says:

    Great playlist!

    I’m reminded of another Tom Petty song. “The Waiting is the Hardest Part”. That’s true for so much in this crazy business.

    Truth is, we all want validation. It’s so hard to remember contests are no the “be-all, end-all”.

    It’s okay to feel disappointed. Just don’t let it hold you back!

  4. Bonnie G says:

    My heart goes out to all who entered and didn’t get called and congrats to those who did. I was too chicken to enter.

    • Thanks for stopping by, Bonnie, to offer a shoulder to cry on. I hope you’ll get the courage to enter next year, especially since luck seems to be with you…you’re my first prize winner of the day!

      You’ve won the $25 See’s Candies Gift Card from Elisa Beatty!

      • Bonnie G says:

        Omg thank you so much. I love chocolate!
        I will enter next year 🙂
        Thank you for picking me & thank you Elisa for the gift card.

  5. Hope Ramsay says:

    Hey there,

    Waving my hand. I also sat by the phone and didn’t get a call. I was disappointed.

    But it sure wasn’t the first time. I entered the Golden Heart about ten times before I finaled. I have submitted no less than 8 books to the RITA and I’ve still never gotten the call.

    But looking back on my sit-by-the-phone-waiting-for-a-call times, I often think that God has been looking out for me. He made me earn my Golden Heart the hard way. And, more important, when I did finally get the call it was in 2009. Becoming a Ruby Sister is, without question, the biggest blessing that writing has ever brought me, and it has nothing to do with that little golden heart pin I wear on my RWA Nationals name badge.

    So, I tried to look through my disappointment on announcement day. And you know, that day brought two other important blessings: 1) my friend and critique partner Caroline Bradley finaled in the Golden Heart for the first time. Once that happened you couldn’t wipe the goofy smile off my face. And 2) I finished the first draft of the Novella that’s due on April 15 — two and half weeks early. Finishing something more than two weeks before deadline is an accomplishment. It was a blessing that the story came to me fully formed, which make it easy to write.

    So, I know not getting the call sucks. But if you look around, I’m sure you’ll find other blessings of equal and maybe event more worth. And you never really know what the future holds. So I will recommend a couple of additional songs:

    1) Count your Blessing from White Christmas, and
    2) Thank God for Unanswered Prayers by Garth Brooks.

    • Earning it the hard way is always sweeter, isn’t it? I’ve found that most things in my life that were worth it required tons of patience and hard work. I’m certain earning a RITA statue will be no different. 😉 I’m with you on the Garth Brooks song!

      And CONGRATS on finishing the novella – and EARLY!! That’s fantastic. (My book’s due 4/15 and I’m nowhere near there…yet.) 😉

  6. Elisa Beatty says:

    I’m with Arlene…I didn’t enter anything this year, but I still feel vaguely let down that the phone didn’t ring.

    To those who didn’t final: I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. Books and manuscripts that get nominated have to be really, really good to get the nod. But books and manuscripts that don’t get nominated are often also really, really good…but they just happened to fall into the laps of a judge or two who just didn’t “get” that particular story, or were reading in a genre they don’t normally appreciate, or who had a headache when they got to yours, or had just broken up with a guy who has the same name as your hero, or….a million different possibilities.

    Over the years, the Rubies have told lots of stories of manuscripts that finaled in the bottom quarter of the Golden Heart one year, but made the finals the next.

    It’s a crap shoot in so many ways. Don’t let it get you down…just get writing!!!

    • Hope Ramsay says:

      So true. The manuscript of WELCOME TO LAST CHANCE never finaled in any contest. It always ended up in the bottom quarter of the scores because I broke a few “rules.” Nevertheless this “loser” manuscript is the book that sold the Last Chance Series to Grand Central Publishing.

      It’s important to remember that the first round judges of the Golden Heart are not editors or agents. Not a one of them has the power to buy your book. Many of these judges are not even very good writers. So if you don’t final in the Golden Heart, it doesn’t mean anything at all, with respect to the quality of your book. Don’t take it as a real-life rejection. It’s not. If your dream is to be traditionally published, then keep submitting your work to agents and editors. They are the true gatekeepers, not the first round judges of the Golden Heart.

      The RITA is an entirely different sort of contest. It’s great to be recognized by one’s peers. But I really don’t think the RITA is nearly as big of a deal as the Golden Heart. Not finaling in the RITA certainly doesn’t feel as sucky as not finaling in the Golden Heart. And this year, the day after I didn’t final in the RITA, I got a new contract for three more books. The RITA is unlikely to have much of an impact on my writing career. The Golden Heart can have a huge impact on a writing career because it opens some doors. In my case the book that finaled in the 2009 Golden Heart is not the book I pitched to editors and agens. I pitched the “loser,” and made my first sale. 🙂

      • Janet says:

        Would you consider doing a blog post on how and when to break those “rules”??

        • Elisa Beatty says:

          Oooh…excellent idea! I always love Hope’s posts on craft.

          And congrats on the new three-book contract, Hope!!! Looking forward to reading them!! Last Chance has been a lovely place to visit, and I’m eager to see where you go next!!!

        • Hope Ramsay says:

          Hey Janet,

          Not sure I want to do a blog about this topic. It might tick a few people off. Here are a few things that were “wrong” about WELCOME TO LAST CHANCE

          1. the H/h have sex in chapter two without exchanging names.
          2. Despite this the book is sweet with most of the sex scenes behind closed doors.
          3. The book has Christian themes but it has sex in chapter 2 and it’s not an inspirational.
          4. There’s a POV from a six year old who sees angels.
          5. There’s a subplot involving a person with brain damage.
          6. The hero is a beta male who is a musician and who is going through a mid-life crisis.
          7. The heroine posed for a girlie calendar and had a relationship with a fence for the mob, but the book is not a romantic suspense.

          I could go on. This book got a 2 star review from Romantic Times and a starred review from Publisher’s Weekly. It spent 8 weeks on the Bookscan bestseller’s list.

          It wasn’t ever going to be nominated for a RITA. RITAs go to books where authors usually don’t break the rules. But I’ll take the Publisher’s Weekly review.

          This year I entered a book where I kill the dog in the second to last chapter. You should see the 1 star reviews I got on Goodreads for doing that. Of course Publisher’s Weekly gave me another terrific review, even though RT hated the book.

          There are consequences to breaking the rules. It doesn’t mean you don’t get published, or find a devoted readership, but it does mean that you might not get recognized by those who think they need to impose “quality control” standards for the romance genre. 🙂

      • selena says:

        I entered the RITA for the first time ever. Was sad not to final but there were so many great entries

        • Hope Ramsay says:


          The first time I entered the RITA I was over the moon. I didn’t care if I finaled. I was just thrilled to be eligible to enter the RITA. I was so excited the day I sent in my RITA entries. Nothing could be sweeter than that. Especially for someone who wrote for decades before making a first sale. 🙂

      • selena says:

        I admit I was a little intimidated competing against all those published authors

  7. M Jean Gardiner says:

    I entered, but I was almost glad I didn’t get the call. Almost. I’ve done a lot of revising since submission, so I figured it’s just as well. In one article, an author said a lot of it amounts to being in the right place at the right time. So I’m working on my right place, in my write time.:)

  8. Okay, this is bad. I didn’t enter the RITAs this year and I have to say that not waiting by the phone on 3-26 (and not calling my husband to make sure my phone is working) was wonderful. I know it’s a terrible attitude but I can’t help it. Next year…I’m totally going to do the RITA wait-and-see drama, but for now I’m happy to celebrate with the noms and commiserate with the broken-hearted.

    • Elisa Beatty says:

      Katie, I definitely see you getting that call one of these days!!!

    • Hope Ramsay says:

      Katie, I didn’t enter the RITA one year and I loved being able to enjoy the day without all the stress. However, when my editor found out I hadn’t entered I got such a balling out. 🙂

      So now, to be utterly honest, I enter for my editor. I believe in my books, but I don’t think any of them are really the kind of book that will ever win a RITA nomination. They tend to be too sweet, and mash up too many genres to fit nicely in any category or within the narrow definition that RWA has imposed on romance these days. So I enter just because it’s expected of me. If I ever get a call it will be great fun. But I don’t think it really means anything to readers. And readers are way ore precious than a golden statute in my opinion.

    • Katie, so glad you took a break and enjoyed March 26th. 😉 Good luck next year!!

  9. Tamara Hogan says:

    I didn’t have a book to enter in this year’s RITA contest, but as usual, I judged both the RITA and the Golden Heart. On “call day”, between day job meetings, I came here and refreshed my browser over and over again, just like everyone else, hoping to see certain books and manuscripts I judged that I thought were awesome hit the finalist list. It didn’t happen. ;-(

    And there were several books I didn’t judge, but that I thought were absolute SHOO-INS for a RITA nomination, that were absent from the list.

    So please realize that, even if you didn’t receive a call on Thursday, there were judges out here – readers out here – who absolutely LOVED your work.

    • Elisa Beatty says:

      Hells, yeah.

      When I think of my favorite books from 2015….I don’t see any on the RITA list.

      Soooooo many good books don’t get nominated. (Just means there’s a ton of great writing out there!!!)

    • So very well said, Tamara. So many great books, so little room on the list…

      And one of the books I LOVED but would never have picked to read myself (I judged it), didn’t make it. That makes me sad, because it was truly awesome. But I remember thinking at the time, “not everyone will like this,” because the author had such a strong (but awesome) voice.

      • Elisa Beatty says:

        That’s such an important point: strong voices are polarizing. Some people are gonna hate it, but those that love it REALLY love it.

        As someone once pointed out, in real life, an author doesn’t have to please five out of five readers. If just one or two out of every five readers out there loves your book, you’ll be a mega-bestseller.

        When I go to buy books, I buy books by authors who have very distinctive voices, and whose voices I love. I know other readers don’t like those books….but that doesn’t stop me from auto-buying every single one.

    • Thanks for that Tamara. I hope that’s the case. I judged a few that I thought were definite finalists that weren’t on the list. Even though I didn’t final, I hope at least one of the 5 judges who read my work enjoyed the story.

  10. Abby Sharpe says:

    I hang out with friends every year (unless I’m somewhere with the kiddos on Spring Break) and being around other writers, whether they entered or not, is always a good time. A few years ago we were mostly all Golden Heart eligible, but no more.

    My phone did ring that morning, however. But it was Priscilla telling us she was a GH finalist. Best phone call of the day. <3

  11. Like so many, I entered the GH in 2013 and didn’t get that call. I was so disappointed…sooooo disappointed. But the Ruby Consolation party worked its magic and I got back to work quickly. Good thing, too, because a couple of weeks later, I submitted to Entangled Lovestruck and now my debut novel is out in the world. It happens. Keep writing <3 <3 <3

  12. Good morning! Just got the kids off to school and I’m ready to commiserate (and give away a few prizes).

    As I mentioned, I didn’t get the call, but life goes on. My WIP is finally shaping up, and that makes me SO happy! 🙂

    And I’m off to award some prizes, so that’s a great way to start a Monday… 😉

  13. I tried not to be too disappointed. Especially since some of the books I read were well written and probably sold well, but they just weren’t my cup of tea. One of the novellas I read did final and I didn’t absolutely love it, but others apparently did.

    I know that a lot of it is luck in having your book fall into the hands of people who love that kind of book. Some of my reviews are great, the reader loved everything about it. Some are not so great, they hated the secret baby thing and couldn’t quite get past it. That’s okay. I appreciated their review anyway.

    I was happy for Liz Talley and one of my chaptermates who finaled in the Golden Heart. I stopped reading my emails and Facebook after the results were posted and I’d congratulated those I wanted to congratulate. I made the mistake of checking my Amazon ranking. Then I dug into my manuscript and finished it by Friday night.

    Oh, and I got my cover for the book Friday morning but I can’t share it yet, but it cheered me up.

  14. Alas, I did enter the Rita’s this year and my phone did not ring. I knew going in it was s long shot, but nothing ventured, nothing gained, right? It was my first year of eligibility for the Rita’s, and since the book had finaled in the GH–twice!–I had hopes. That have now been dashed. But I had lots of friends who finaled in one contest or the other, and that’s almost as good. I just have to remember, judging is subjective, contests are a crapshoot, and only a few people can final.

    Congratulations to those who did get a call, but pass the consolation chocolates my way, please!

    • *passes chocolates* Here you go!

      And yes, it is very subjective. There has to be a dose of luck to land, along with the huge dose of talent. Keep trying, Jacqueline! 😀

  15. Janet says:

    I had to skip this year–it was one expensive crisis after another during the entry window.
    But, I’m thrilled that 2 friends got the call. Living vicariously works, too 🙂

  16. Kim Law says:

    My phone rang three times. THREE TIMES!!!! None of them were calls I wanted. *sigh* This business is tough, both emotionally and just plain hard work. But it’s also rewarding–even when you don’t get awards 😉

    So sorry for all of us whose phone didn’t ring. Pout and whine. And chocolate 🙂

    But we still rock!!! Go forth and kick some a$$!

    • Those cruel, cruel callers. How mean. As if the emotional wringer writers go through each day isn’t enough?!

      Let the a$$-kickage commence! 😀

    • Hope Ramsay says:

      Yeah I got one of *those* calls on Thursday too. So annoying. But I’m totally down with kicking butt. (My editor says I’m not allowed to use the other word.) 😉

  17. I entered the RITA for the first time ever. I didn’t get the call (didn’t really expect to) but I was still just slightly disappointed that my phone didn’t ring. Even the hubby called to tell me he was sorry and that I just needed to enter again this year – he was at work that day.
    Congrats to all the finalists, and keep working at it for those of use who didn’t.

    One thing, I saw a tweet by Sylvia Day on Call Day, and if she’s right, then this is huge.
    #1 publisher of RITA Finalists – Harlequin
    #2 publisher of RITA Finalists – Self-Published Authors.
    HUGE News and verification that there are great books being self-published. And that RWA is on the right track by recognizing and allowing indies the opportunity to enter this national contest judged by our peers.

  18. Kay Hudson says:

    I entered two older manuscripts this year, because I’ve gotten into the habit (finalling three times will do that to you), and neither made it. Disappointed on the one hand, relieved on the other, because neither entry was one I want to pursue right now.

    I also judged, and two entries I adored did not final. I have no idea why–crap shoot proof, I guess. Two that I liked a lot (but not quite as much) did final, cheers for them!

    And my favorite book of last year is not on the Rita list, much to my surprise.

    So now I have a trilogy to finish, edit, and probably publish myself next year.

    • Onward and upward, Kay! It is interesting how books we love don’t always make it. And others do. It actually encourages me, because I realize my books won’t be for everyone, but some people out there will love them. 🙂

      • Kay Hudson says:

        I know, Anne Marie! I feel awful about it, but when something I think is really great doesn’t make the cut, it makes me feel better about my own (often wildly divergent!) results.

    • I definitely understand the “relieved” reaction, Kay!

      My two entries are manuscripts that I’ve been laboring over for far too long. It is past time for me to move on, for crying out loud!

      Not finaling gave me *permission* to start something new (rather than continuing to bash my head against these old stories.) I still love them, and I will eventually circle back to fixing them.

      But, for now, I’m finally working on something new. And that’s awesome!

  19. I didn’t enter this year because my GH book didn’t get the RITA nod last year, and I felt that it was better than my two 2014 books. Frankly, my most recent book (BRANDED) bitch-slapped me but good, so much so that I didn’t REALLY work on anything new for several months after. Now I’m kinda sorta kicking myself because maybe…just maybe…BRANDED would’ve been good enough. But I saved $50, right? And many hours reading entries?

    Truly though–and I’m not being all fakey–I was so happy for my friends who go the call. It inspired me to make the book I’m writing now RITA-worthy.

    And to all y’all, if you’re part of this GH community, well, you have the chops. The Golden Heart finalists make up the RITA farm team. To paraphrase Stuart Smalley, “You’re good enough, you write well enough, and gosh darnit, people read you!”

    • LOL – I LOVE Stuart Smalley. He’s so smart. 😉

      I’m in the midst of one of those bitch-slapping books, too. (I shall prevail!) But yeah, it hurts when a book you thought was one of your best doesn’t get the nod. (But yeah, you did save $50!) 😀

      • Anne Marie,

        Thanks for the sisterhood. I hope the bitch-slapping book will turn out to be amazing for you. Perhaps they’re like difficult, brilliant children (says the woman without children)? I like to think that the difficult books are making me a better writer. That’s what I tell myself, anyway!

    • YAY, Colette!! You won a $10 Starbucks gift card from Heather McCollum. Enjoy!

    • Collette, I feel the same way. Sure, I was disappointed, but it’s making me want to work harder to make the next entry that much better. Plus, my readers will benefit! 🙂

  20. Lynda Bailey says:

    I, too, entered the RITA for the first time this year. I tried to mitigate my hopes – really I did – but was still pouty when *the call* didn’t come. So, what did I do? I took youngest pup on a two-mile death march, noodling a new story (novella) in my head, vowing that “I will be back.” 😉

    I’d also like to add a super big YEA because Self-Published Authors were the #2 publishers of RITA finalists. Way to rock the industry!

    • Aw, it’s hard to avoid the pouty phase when being nominated for a RITA would be so awesome. At least, that’s what I told myself. 😉 Hope that new novella is coming along!

    • And YAY, Lynda!! Your death march must have restored your karma. You’ve won a prize: a box of Alaskan Wild Berry Chocolates (if you’re in the U.S.) from Vivi Andrews. 😀

      • Lynda Bailey says:

        Suh-weet! And yes, I’m in the U.S. Thank you Vivi for your generosity – and of course the awesomeness that is the Ruby Slippered Sisterhood! 😉

    • Elisa Beatty says:

      Going outdoors and noodling up a new novella is definitely the best revenge!!!

      And, yeah, that news about self-pubbed books and the RITA–WOW!!

  21. Rita Henuber says:

    The world and life is full of twists and turns. Bottom line is to never quit. NEVER give up. The ONLY failure is to quit.

  22. I’m one of the poor SOBs that got a call at 9:05am… from the Sears repairman who was too sick to come to my house that afternoon for the appointment with my dishwasher. Talk about a surge of wasted adrenaline!

    As I said to my VFRW chaptermates in an email I sent the night before calls went out, DO NOT LET *NOT FINALING* MESS WITH YOUR HEAD. You never know why a judge didn’t like your entry, and it only takes one or two giving middling-to-high scores to knock you out of the running — even if all the others scored you 9.0 and above. (My two 2015 GH entries were multi-contest finalists/winners, and one was previously a GH finalist, and *still* I didn’t final this year.)

    Your job now is to pull yourself up by your bra straps, plop yourself down in your chair, and get back to work.

    I did that by scrubbing down my office, shredding a massive pile of papers, and pulling out a fresh plot board. The result of a weekend of hard work: I’m well on my way to starting a new series.

    This is a Churchill quote I keep hanging above my desk:

  23. Carrie Padgett says:

    I didn’t get a GH call last week either. But I didn’t pee my pants or jump off the stage (out of my office??) to beat up a reader or throw water at anyone, so I’m already a winner! 😉

    I moped for the day, then picked up myself and got back to work. I know being a GH finalist last year was amazing. I wanted to repeat to convince myself last year wasn’t a fluke.

    But I’m thrilled for the new finalists. Their lives are going to change and they don’t even know how amazing it will be!

    As it happens, my “affirmation of the day,” for Thursday was:

    “You do your best every day and you can’t do any more. You are enough.”

    Between that and some chocolate Easter eggs and a glass of wine with dinner, I was okay by the end of the day.

    Thanks for this fun post and a chance to whine! You Rubies are the best! (Next to the Dreamweavers, of course! 😉 )

    • And see? You’re STILL a rock star! LOL (A very well-behaved one!)

      I LOVE that affirmation. Back when I was a counselor, there was a phrase I liked that was very similar: “You do the best you can, with the resources you have, in that moment.” That’s all we can do as human beings.

      • Carrie Padgett says:

        That’s exactly right.
        And thanks for the anthems! I’ve always loved Roar, but I guess I hadn’t seen the video. Very fun!

    • And YAY, Carrie! You’ve won the 1st Chapter Critique from Tamara Hogan!! Congrats!

  24. Karen McCoy says:

    No rant here, just wanted to add another P!nk song to the playlist:

    F*#king Perfect (clean version found here)

  25. Shawna says:

    I didn’t enter this year. Still feeling the sting over the YA category last year, only to see YA nominees this year! ARGH! They should’ve taken our last year’s entries and put them in. Or not. Oh well.

    There’s always next year.

    Drinking helps. 🙂

    Keep on writing!

  26. I feel a little behind in the game, actually. I did enter this year, but I didn’t even join RWA until my first manuscript was picked up by a publisher. I had no idea about the GH awards and I’m still learning so much.

    I did enter the RITAs and didn’t get a call, although someone in NY was really trying to get me to refinance a medical bill that I don’t even have, they called 3 times that day! I’m in FL, so the first time my heart began to race.

    My second book comes out this fall, but I’m not sure I’ll enter the RITAs again next year or not. My husband, the ever positive cheerleader, says I should, what can it hurt. He wasn’t home until after I’d accepted defeat last Thursday. I wish I could say I had a conciliatory drink, but I gave up alcohol for Lent (yeah…bad idea on so many levels).

    Anyway, there’s always next time, whenever that is. And while it is disappointing, we can’t all be finalists, but in the long run we can’t give up. I love writing, and I’m about to jump into the end of my third book (definitely will enter that one). Good luck to you all next year!

    • Hi, Kathryn! – And thanks for stopping by! You’ve been selected the winner of the Chocolate scented Candle from Autumn Jordon (if you’re in the U.S.).

      Your husband sounds like an awesome cheerleader. And hey, Lent is almost over, so there’s that to look forward to. 😉

      So glad you’re jumping back in, and good luck with next year’s entry!!

      • Yes, I am in the US. Thank you for the gift! I love chocolate and candles. Sounds like a low-cal way to get my chocolate fix…;)

        My hubby is great, I always bounce ideas off of him. I don’t always like his response, but somewhere in the middle, it ends up working. Thankfully Lent is almost over. I gave up fried foods too. French fries are about to drive me crazy!!

        Thank you!

  27. I have a few more prizes to give out – including some gift certificates and a synopsis critique, so keep commiserating with me. 🙂 I’ll be checking back in a bit…

  28. Laurie Kellogg says:

    I didn’t get a call, but then I didn’t expect one. On the bright side, even though I’m planning to go to New York for a couple of days this summer to see friends, I really didn’t want to afford the conference fee. So I’m simply going to the TGN retreat, literacy signing, and having dinner with my friends. So we can always find a silver lining in the cloud.

    • I had a very similar silver lining – now I can put my money toward publishing upcoming books rather than pay for the conference, since I wasn’t going to go unless I finaled. Thank goodness for silver linings! 😀

  29. Vivi Andrews says:

    I didn’t enter this year, but I like to think Consolation Day is not just about RITA recognition, but also about those little career disappointments that all writers struggle through. We pick ourselves up, we push on through, and we keep reaching for the brass ring, because we’ll never get there if we stop trying!

    I love your playlist, Anne Marie! 😀

  30. Shannon-aorist says:

    I cried at the joy of the winners. And I felt a little hint of envy that the winners were ready to enter. But I resolved that next year, the entry goes into the ether for consideration.


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