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Talk Your Way to Success – the Power of Positive Affirmations

Who are you? What do you want to be? A “real” writer? A published writer? A NY Times Best Selling author? I’m going to teach you (or remind you) about a secret power that you have. The power of the positive affirmation.

 

Repeat after me – “I am a successful writer.” Say it out loud in the mirror. Repeat twice a day.

 

This is a positive affirmation and watch out – it’s VERY powerful. An affirmation is a statement, repeated either verbally, mentally, and/or through writing. When we review the words, it makes our body and mind believe they are real. And when we believe, we realign our world around that truth. Of course, we can’t bring back the dead, cure incurable diseases, or win the lottery just by saying positive affirmations – but they can do a lot of good.

We’ve all seen the horrific impact of negative affirmations on people. People can be their own worst enemies by mentally or verbally telling themselves they are failures or worse. This is self-sabotage. If you berate yourself, try talking to yourself as you would to a friend or even an acquaintance. Chances are you’ll speak kinder to yourself.

Next step is to come up with some positive affirmations. Be careful to do this part correctly. You don’t want to inadvertently make things more negative.

  1. The statement should be specific and about something you are not yet, but want to be. Don’t feel like you’re lying. It is supposed to be something that is NOT true – yet (or that you don’t feel is true).
  2. It must be in present tense. If you say “I will be a successful writer” that describes the future and you won’t get there because the future is always out of reach. Replace “will be” with “am”.
  3. Use ONLY positive words. If you say “I never stop writing” your psyche will hear “stop” and leave out the “never”. Rephrase to take out “never” “not” “won’t” and any of those reverse words. “I write everyday,” works better.

At one time I had ten stickies stuck to my bathroom mirror with affirmations. I recommend starting with just a few so it doesn’t seem like a chore. Some people put them in their cars so that every time they get in they repeat the affirmations.

Bk 1 of The Dragonfly Chronicles

You may want to warn spouses or people who share the area with you. When I was trying to get pregnant I wrote “I am pregnant” so obviously I had to tell my husband what I was up to (BTW – I got pregnant : ).

Bk 2 of The Dragonfly Chronicles

Right around the time I submitted my manuscript that was a finalist in the 2009 Golden Hearts I was writing and saying “I am a published writer.” Before I even found out that I was a finalist I sold two manuscripts.

When I was fighting ovarian cancer with fifteen months of grueling chemo and surgery, I said a list of thirty positive affirmations at least twice a day. I wrote new ones each night. “My body is full of health.” “My stomach is calm.” “I sleep deeply and peacefully through the night.” They served me well, helping me to calm down and shift my focus from panic to determined survival (I’m a 6-year survivor).

Positive affirmations. They are simple. They work. With conference season coming up, it is the perfect time to write some out and start saying them. “I love to pitch my book ideas.” “I am confident and love to meet new people.” “I am a talented writer.” “I am a NY Times Best Seller.” You get the idea.

Feel free to send me some positive affirmations if you’d like to bounce around some ideas. 

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