Changes and Choices

As a writer I’m driven to understand the world around me through the lens of the storyteller. Why did that happen? Why do I feel that way? What’s the bigger picture? What are the possible outcomes?

Whether it’s how I’m hardwired or just something that’s evolved along with my writing as I’ve grown older, the world around me provides constant opportunities to wonder “what comes next?”

At no other time do we ask so many questions as when we’re in the midst of change. And while those periods can be scary, they also offer considerable opportunity to reframe what we want, what’s important to us and how we want to move forward.

This is as important in our writing as it is in our lives. There is no linear path in publishing. What’s right at one moment may change the following year. What’s hot suddenly is not and what wouldn’t sell to save your life suddenly becomes a hot commodity. Editors move houses or leave the business. Amazon creates a new opportunity to get your work into readers’ hands. A local independent bookstore suddenly becomes a space everyone wants to visit.

Whatever those changes might be, we must always look at them as opportunities. And when we have opportunity, we have choice.

For me, that’s been one of the most exciting things about the past 5-8 years in publishing. As authors, a world of choices have opened up to us. There is no “traditional path,” nor is there even a “right” path. But there are MANY paths and that is awesome.

I know change can be scary – it forces us out of something comfortable and into something unknown. I read a post on social media recently that said those are the times we’re usually “leveling up.”

While my life isn’t a video game <g>, I certainly hope it’s constantly moving forward! So in the spirit of that, here’s wishing you the next level! And the wisdom to see those choices and reach for them with both hands when they appear.

Thanks for joining me today!





20 responses to “Changes and Choices”

  1. I love change! And the opportunities it represents. Good luck to you in your leveling up, Addison!


  2. I crave moving forward and that means change. I’m one of those people who likes to make a quick decision and then make that decision work, rather than someone who researches and thinks about things for a long time before moving. Which means I get things done, but it also means I can make big mistakes by acting too quickly.

    I strive for a balance between the two. Luckily my DH is a “let’s research and choose right” type of person, so we balance each other. But cripe! It took him six months to pick out his recliner!

    Yes – leveling up is always a great choice, as long as I get more “lives” : ) Heather


  3. …..“the world around me provides constant opportunities to wonder “what comes next?”
    At no other time do we ask so many questions as when we’re in the midst of change. And while those periods can be scary, they also offer considerable opportunity to reframe what we want, what’s important to us and how we want to move forward.”

    These words reminded me of my life. I’ve always asked ‘what if’. Still do. My work life has changed again and again and again. Once a mid-level management for an International pizza chain, who earned many awards and a trip to Paradise Island as rewards, I then became a corporate secretary for a trucking company, and now I’m a full time writer. Within each company, I always asked what if we do this or handle the situation that way, and when I left each one I stood with my hands on my hips, sort of like Super Girl, and asked what’s next. My personal life has changed so much over the years too. My sisters know the story. And each time change happens, again the questions what next and what if continues to be the daily mantra. I believing asking them is my way of setting goals and accomplishing something worthwhile.
    Great post, Addison.


    • Addison Fox says:

      Thanks, Autumn!

      And it really is so true – change can be a great motivator if properly channeled. Sounds like you are doing a wonderful job on that front!!


  4. I’m of the change-is-scary camp, but I also realize stasis is death, literally or figuratively. You write…

    >>Whatever those changes might be, we must always look at them as opportunities.<<

    Love this! Those of us who struggle with change would be well served to replace the word "change" with "opportunity." Thanks for the tip, Addison!


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  5. jbrayweber says:

    Hear, hear! When one door closes, another opens. I’m all for new opportunities!

    Great post, Addison.


  6. I liked the old way! But I’m not an idiot — I know it’s not coming back. I recognize that it’s up to me now to either get with the times or stay stuck in the mud.


    • Addison Fox says:

      Oh, I do hear you on that, Jamie! I might like the opportunity in front of me but I do love the comfortable, unchanging world behind me! 🙂


  7. Change IS scary, but inevitable. I think the biggest problem a lot of people have is believing everything should be a certain way, the way it was BEFORE the change. You have to move with the change or you get left behind. Embrace it, find a way to make the change work for you. Excellent topic, Addison!


    • Addison Fox says:

      I am smiling at your post because it reminded me of a conversation I recently had with a friend. This desire for everything to be “perfect.”

      Much as we chase that dream, there is no perfect. There’s life – in all it’s messy glory. It’s rarely perfect but I wouldn’t change it for the world!


  8. Rita Henuber says:

    I believe the most difficult thing for a human to do, accept, is change. It is also the most rewarding. Exciting. Inevitable. I’m not always happy about it but, shrug, ya gotta go with the flow. Get on board and work out the best deal for yourself.


    • Addison Fox says:

      Rita – I love your zen on this!! Go with the flow….some days I feel flowy…many I feel stubborn. Here’s to more flow! 🙂


  9. Cynthia Huscroft says:

    Hmm…somehow the post I was going to post did not show up. Should have followed my gut & copied into a word doc for this “just in case” moment.

    Know I can’t recreate other that to say I echo all of the above sentiments regarding change.

    I’ve done many things in my lifetime and have seen many doors open and close. All have forced me to change in one way or another. Some of the changes were better than others. My last one was rather monumental in that I retired. It what not what I would have chosen at that moment in time for myself but did so in an effort to keep my retirement and healthcare benefits intact. I was at risk of being fired due to what I term a “domino effect” so I bowed out gracefully.

    The “retirement journey” is what brought me here. The changes in your lives that brought you here are facilitating yet another metamorphosis in my life.

    Thanks, Rubies!

    p.s. I apologize if somehow there are 2 posts from me:)


  10. Change is hard for me. When I’m going down a certain path, and I suddenly come to multiple forks in the roads (aka opportunities), I feel paralyzed at times. Which fork to choose, which direction to turn. I guess I have to realize that those forks don’t forever diverge. They interconnect, and I can even be on multiple paths at the same time. It’s not quite as scary when I think of it like that. Or when I realize that decisions in this business are more fluid and less rigid than they once were. Thanks, Addison. Great post!


    • Addison Fox says:

      Thanks, Tina! And I totally agree – on the writing front I really do think things are less rigid than they used to be. That’s a good thing for all of us!!!


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