If The Gods Can Screw Up, Why Can’t I?

Each time it’s my turn to blog here at the Ruby Slippered Sisterhood, I get nervous.  Over the years, my Ruby sisters have taught me so much about the craft of writing, professionalism, and the handling of life’s ups and downs with grace. But what I’ve learned most from them is to be true to myself.

As the Winter Writing Fest progresses and you see all the posts from the participants that they made their goals, you might feel depressed because you didn’t make your goal. Well let me say, “You should be. You should lay down your pencil, call it quits, and walk away.”

SLAP. Snap out of it. Not even the gods of Rome achieved all their goals all the time. They tried, but nuh, they didn’t make them all. And neither will we humans. We’re humans. We have lives; family, kids, sick kids, a day job, a birthday party to bring together, a funeral to attend, a car to take for repairs, we get sick ourselves. The list goes on and on and on.

It’s a new day every single day. And whatever progress you make toward your goal is totally awesome and you should be proud at achieving it.

Look, we all have dreams and watching someone else achieve theirs can fill you with resentment. It can make you lose vision of who you are and even change the course of your life, if you let it. Don’t give into the beast of bitterness.  We all have paths to follow, and each journey is littered with obstacles and pit stops to negotiate.

We can’t and shouldn’t compare ourselves to others.  I am who I am, and I’m on my own path. You are who you are, and you’re on your own journey.  What is important is that we believe in ourselves, never stop dreaming, and never stop working toward making our dreams come true.

It’s time for you to make a decision. Will you pull up your big girl panties and work toward your dreams, or will you let them go? Tomorrow when it’s check in time, tell us what you did accomplish. And be proud.


Free-For-All Friday: Crowd-sourced Promotion Insights

Readers of the Ruby blog may know that I’ve been waiting out a rights reversion timeline with my former publisher. I have good news and bad news. The good news? I obtained publication rights back for my traditionally-published Underbelly Chronicles books in December! If my plans hold, I’ll be able to reissue those books sometime […]

Share a Snippet!

We’re 10 days into the 2017 Winter Writing Festival, and participants have spun out hundreds of thousands of new words, whether joining in the writing sprints or working in the privacy of their own writing caves.  I love hearing folks in the Chat Room come back after  20 or 30 minutes of sprinting and say, […]

Write On 2017! – Your Vision

Every Monday I volunteer at a house of hospitality for pregnant and newly parenting women. Essentially, it’s a homeless shelter. Many of our moms have no family support or are newly released from jail or battling addiction. One of the first things our moms do once they arrive at the house is put together a […]

It’s Time for the Week One Check-In for the Winter Writing Festival!!

The Seventh Annual Ruby Slippered Sisterhood Winter Writing Festival is really rocking, with the Ruby Sisters and dozens of their always-talented friends writing their hearts out! Today we complete our FIRST FULL WEEK, and it’s time to officially check in! If you’re reading this on the Festival website (the blue site), jump on over to […]

What’s Your Process?

Are you a plotter or a pantser? Do you need detailed outlines and character sketches as a road map or do too many details paralyze you, making you feel like the book has already been written? Currently in the RWR, there are a series of articles about how your Myers-Briggs designation can influence your writing […]

Guy Speak

Guy Speak  – Keeping the dialogue real. This is not about a man saying one thing and meaning another. I’m discussing male dialogue in romance books. It drives me bonkers to read dialogue that has a man speaking like a woman. Male and female brains are hardwired different. While the male and female of the species have […]

Write On 2017! Your Mission

Have you heard the phrase, Eat the frog first? It references Mark Twain’s famous quote, “Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.” When  I worked in the corporate world, this phrase essentially meant do your toughest work first, and the rest of […]

Opening Ceremonies for the 2017 Winter Writing Festival!!!!

*Joining us after Jan 10? YES, you can still be part of the Festival!! Just give yourself whatever bonus points you need to for FINDING us, and jump right in!!* And here come some of our favorite words of the year: We now declare the Seventh Annual Ruby Slippered Sisterhood Winter Writing Festival OPEN! Let […]

Writing Regency Romance in a 21st Century World

You know when you have to throw together a dinner party at the last minute because you forgot it was your turn? (One of these days you really need to figure out that calendar thing on your phone that tells you stuff like this ahead of time.) Or your husband forgot to tell you? (Plan […]

GMC For The Author

Like successful books, successful writers have  Goals, Motivation, and Conflict. Think about it. We use GMC to build our books. As writers we are no different from the characters we set up in stories. Writers have Goals just as our characters have. We have the Motivation as to why we want to achieve our goals as do […]

Write On 2017! Prioritize Your Writing

Say it with me, writer friends: It’s time to stop clowning around and get serious about my writing! Maybe you’re a new writer hankering to finish your first novel. Or maybe you’ve been in the writing trenches a while and need to take that next BIG STEP. Get an agent. Self-publish. Quit your day job. […]

Goal-Setting Advice for the 2017 Winter Writing Festival!

The Festival starts next week! The Festival starts next week!! (Tuesday, January 10, to be exact.) I hope you’re as excited as I am, and ready for some BIG PRODUCTIVITY through what could otherwise be the dreariest part of winter.  To help you get ready, I’m re-posting a blog from previous years about how to […]

North Star Or Shooting Star. It Begins.

Next week, during the Ruby Winter Writing Fest, we begin the quest to bring our imaginary friends to life. Reading that line, I’ll bet some of you immediately had this mental picture of yourself sitting at your favorite work spot, downing carafes of coffee or tea (or in my case, Diet Coke) while drilling the key […]

Happy New Year

  Again, the Rubies are taking time to enjoy our family and friends, but before 2016 ends we would like to thank you all for your support. We love our readers and wish everyone a happy, safe New Year’s, and a healthy and prosperous New Year!  See you January 2, 2017. Xoxo ~ The Rubies~

I’m 29 (Again!) and Here’s What I’ve Learned

  AGAIN !!     I have been celebrating the anniversary of my 29th birthday for the last 28 years. This year, I am officially 29 TWICE ! You do the math. In my nearly 60 years (Good LORD ! That sounds OLD!) I have acquired a B.S. Degree, a B.A. Degree, a Master’s Degree, and […]

6-word stories

My baby girl is home from college for Christmas break. Our typical mother-daughter bonding involves the family room, laptops, web-surfing, and utter silence. Today, though, she broke the chain by sharing some 6-word stories that she’d found online. I left. Dog panicked. Furniture shopping. Our bedroom. Two voices. I knock. Rain. Two strangers. One umbrella. […]

There Is No Use Denying Who You Are

This is a republished blog posted here on the Ruby Slippered Sisterhood as Closet Writers that was felt by many of our readers. I hope it will connect with a few more as we go into a new year. Closet writers break my heart. Any reason a writer keeps their writing a secret is just wrong, unless the […]

Happy Holidays

It’s the blessed time of year and the world, preparing for a celebration is in a spin. The Rubies thoughts are turning to the priorities of our hearts. Letting the holiday come and go without telling our readers Happy Holidays would be a sin. We cherish your support and wish you the merriest of days […]

Top 5 Tips for Writing Through the Holidays

We all know the holidays can mess with productivity and, for my money, rightfully so. It’s the time of the year where there are more things on our calendars, there’s more time spent with loved ones and quite simply there are just more things to do. (For those in the northern hemisphere it’s also the […]

Rob Lowe on “Truth Vampires”

You might recognize actor Rob Lowe from his TV and movie career, but in 2011, when he released his memoir, “Stories I Only Tell My Friends,” the world learned he was a damn good writer. So when I read his second book, 2014’s “Love Life,” I expected the writing chops. I expected the storytelling abilities. […]

Make It Real

Our readers do not want to close their eyes. They want them wide open and still feel like they’re stepping onto the pages of our stories. If you read my blog on November 18th, you know we draw our readers into our stories with an emotional connection to our character. But to really make them […]

Announcing the 2017 Winter Writing Festival!!!

Needing a special gift for your writer self? Well, the Rubies have one for you: THE SEVENTH ANNUAL RUBY SLIPPERED SISTERHOOD WINTER WRITING FESTIVAL STARTS TUESDAY JANUARY 10, 2017!!! If you’ve joined us for the Winter Writing Festival any time during the past six years, you know it can be a tremendously productive time, with lots […]

Big Hooks -a marketing tool.

What is the BIG hook? Simple. A title. Don’t believe me, read on. A few months ago, in a reader forum, I started a discussion, asking the question ‘what first grabs your attention when searching for a book in brick store?’ My thread stayed on top for weeks as readers offered their opinions.  A great […]

Ruby Cookie Exchange Winner Announced!

Thank you to all who joined us this past weekend during the Ruby Cookie Exchange.  We had a great ti me and we now have our grand prize winner.  Congrats to Linda Scarchuk! Linda has already been contacted and is so thrilled. Happy Holidays to all and continue to watch for what the Ruby’s have in store […]

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